This year, I challenged myself to find new and meaningful ways to show myself love. I enjoy showing others how much I love them, but after these last few difficult years, I am also reminded of the unconditional love I long to give to myself.
In 2022, one of my biggest goals has been to advocate for myself more and to know that I am deserving. I am here to tell you that you are also worthy of the immense love you have in your heart. It’s endless, and I might argue that the most important person you may need to show love to is yourself.
You live and die with yourself, and you spend all your time with yourself.
I have accumulated a list of how I have learned to show myself love and respect. I long to give so much love to others, but I forget that the most crucial step to doing this is becoming intimate with the love I have to offer, so I can better spread it to others.
Your inward world colors your external world.
10 Ways To Show Yourself Love & Kindness
1. Trust Your Instincts
This is one that I have struggled with for as long as I can remember. I believe instinct is a whisper, and it comes with a feeling of resonance or dissonance. It is often difficult to differentiate between the things you want in your heart and the things that other people want for you.
Dissonance comes with feelings of anxiety or discontentment, whereas resonance just feels “right.” It is strange, but at times, I feel like my life is there already; My job is to utilize the present moment to further discover what lies ahead.
What a joy it is to be human.
2. You Don’t Have To Explain Yourself.
If you follow your instinct in kindness, you don’t have to prove yourself.
Give yourself permission to thoroughly do what you love, unabashedly.
3. Say What You Mean.
There have been times in my life that I have withheld information from others to avoid discomfort. As I get older, I realize that transparency is the most significant act of kindness.
I would rather disappoint someone briefly than not be myself in full for a prolonged period of time. I have found that people respect us more when we say what we mean.
4. Never Speak Badly Of Yourself.
Love yourself. Negative (false!!!) beliefs about yourself build up. I have, at times, felt so trapped by my mind. Negative thoughts can be addictive and hard to let go of when you have them.
You cannot necessarily stop them at times, but you can choose not to listen to them. This is perhaps one of the biggest battles to overcome in life. We forget that we are perfect.
Our goal is to rediscover our infinite beauty.
5. Never Give Up On Your Dreams.
As a teacher, my students have the most beautiful dreams for themselves. My goal, as a teacher, is to remind my students to never give up.
We all know instinctively what we want, and we all have the talent and drive to get there. The universe will test you, but you must know that with strength, anything you dream for yourself and others, in kindness, is possible.
6. Don’t Be Afraid To Say “Yes”.
Remember, trust your instincts! Follow your fear. Making it to the other end of a challenge you have said “yes” to often leads to growth, wisdom, and empowerment.
7. Don’t Be Afraid To Say “No”.
Remember, you don’t need to explain yourself to others! You know what is right in your heart. It’s as simple as that.
8. Stay Away From Drama And Negativity.
We all learn, especially with age, that consuming, painful weeds within our hearts can grow from living in a world of unnecessary drama.
You can still love someone, but choose to distance yourself from negativity to protect your heart. This is hard, but you have to remember that letting go of someone might give them the lesson they need to grow.
We are all on our different paths, and we are all in a relationship with one another, even if that relationship is one without contact. Maintaining harmony and resonance in your world should always strive towards.
9. Let Go Of What You Cannot Control.
You cannot control certain external events in your life, but you can always learn and grow from them. Some events can break a heart open, only to be rebuilt again.
Always do your best. We cannot control other peoples’ reactions to us, but we can strive to be the best that we can be with kindness in our hearts. This may change from time to time, but you have nothing to regret if you try your hardest.
10. Love Unconditionally.
Love yourself, love others, love the world’s creatures and gifts, love the world, and love the universe that is within and without us. Unconditional love for self turns into unconditional love for everything around you.
In fact, when we strip ourselves down, love is the very root of who we are.
Share With Me!
So these are the top ten ways that I show myself loving-kindness. I hope that not only they can inspire you, but I want you to inspire me.
What are some ways that you show kindness to yourself? Leave a comment on how you portray yourself love!!!! I would love to hear.
Sending you so much warmth and sunshine. Spring is coming <3.
~ Maddie